Who am I- really???

[To make sure I give credit where credit is due, I want you to know that lots of what I include here is from Dieter F. Uchtdorf's talk in the priesthood session of the Oct. 2014 General Conference. I will try to be sure I make it obvious which words are his directly.]
He cited a Cornell University study that showed how poor we are at honestly recognizing our own performance level. This particular study showed that students who performed poorly were the least accurate at evaluating their performance on a series of tests on various life skills. Some of them estimated their scores to be five times higher than they actually were. In addition, across 4 studies, participants that scored in the bottom percentage on tests of humor, grammar, and logic grossly overestimated their performance and ability to the extent that those whose scores were in the bottom 12% estimated themselves to be at a 62% level. That's quite a disparity! Some very "successful people overestimate their own contribution and underestimate the contributions that others make."
In Russ and my living conditions for a great deal of the past 4 decades, including sharing living space for prolonged times with other people, along with now having been married for nearly 45 years sharing living spaces, we have been faced with an awareness of how different people's perspectives can be. What is "reality"? What one remembers "accurately" may be totally different from what another remembers. What may be logical to one may seem nonsense to another. What may be the only way to do something well may be all wrong to another. Throughout my life I have had times when I wished I could be a fly on the wall to hear what someone says when I am not around. Or I have wished for a secret video taping to see myself or someone else or some incident instantly replayed. How do we know when we have an accurate perspective? The scriptures have many references to the time when we come to the judgement bar of God or meet Jesus Christ face-to-face and we will have a full remembrance of our guilt, wrongdoing, sincerity, efforts, or worth. I know we can often be our own worst critics. There is a plaque popular among Latter Day Saints that says, in effect, "I wish you could see yourself as I see you" next to a portrayal of Jesus Christ. [This is where I want to include some of Elder Uchtdorf's wise words as an apostle of the Lord, a prophet, seer, and revelator. They won't necessarily be in order as they were in his talk.]
I'm not sure why we are able to diagnose and recommend remedies for other people's ills so well, while we often have difficulty seeing our own... [We] may appear on the outside to be disciples of Jesus Christ, but on the inside [our] hearts have separated from [our] Savior and His teachings.....Some are convinced that their busy schedules or unique circumstances make them exempt from the daily acts of devotion and service that would keep them close to the Spirit. In this age of self-justification and narcissism, it is easy to become quite creative at coming up with excuses for not regularly approaching God in prayer, procrastinating the study of the scriptures, avoiding Church meetings and family home evening, or not paying an honest tithe and offerings... IF it is your great desire to cultivate Christlike attributes of "faith, virtue, knowledge, temperance, patience, brotherly kindness, godliness, charity, humility, [and service], Heavenly Father will make you an instrument in His hands unto the salvation of many souls.... Being able to see ourselves clearly is essential to our spiritual growth and well-being. If our weaknesses and shortcomings remain obscured in the shadows, then the redeeming power of the Savior cannot heal them and make them strengths... Those who do not wish to learn and change probably will not and most likely will begin to wonder whether the Church has anything to offer them. But those who want to improve and progress, those who learn of the Savior and desire to be like Him, those who humble themselves as a little child and seek to bring their thoughts and actions into harmony with our Father in Heaven- they will experience the miracle of the Savior's Atonement. They will surely feel God's resplendent Spirit. They will taste the indescribable joy that is the fruit of a meek and humble heart. They will be blessed with the desire and discipline to become true disciples of Jesus Christ.
It's really hard to look in the mirror and see who we truly are, as I once mentioned a former Buddhist friend explained to me for how she practiced "religion". When we are depressed we can see a hopeless failure. When we have accomplished something major or been praised, we may think we are not needing much improvement. When we are feeling lazy, we may justify ourselves by claiming we don't think it's necessary to try harder. Because there are as many perspectives as there are people and each person has different strengths and weaknesses requiring differing efforts in different areas, how can we rate our own progress? How can we "be perfect" as Christ commanded? Beyond excusing ourselves as mortals thereby incapable of perfection, how can we be able to withstand facing our Savior or our Heavenly Father with a clear recollection of what we have said and done? How can we avoid being discouraged to the point of paralysis? Elder Uchtdorf says:
May I suggest the holy scriptures and the talks given at general conference are an effective mirror we can hold up for self-examination? As you hear or read the words of the ancient and modern prophets, refrain from thinking about how the words apply to someone else and ask the simple question: "Lord, is it I?"
You can not measure ANYTHING without a standard to measure by. Since God gave each of us the freedom to decide for ourselves who we want to be, we each choose our heroes or standards to go by. If you have no desire to be Christlike, don't bother reading any more of this because it's not meaningful for you. You can choose to be just who you are right now if that's what you want. Otherwise, Elder Uchtdorf's words might be helpful for you. If you hear a talk about dressing modestly and you are currently striving to always wear in public clothing you would be comfortable wearing in the presence of the Lord, then you don't need to fret about that. On the other hand, if you hear a talk about controlling passion/anger and you are currently justifying outbursts by blaming others, maybe you should pray for help to overcome a weakness you would prefer to change. If you read a scripture about being honest and you feel you are as honest as you can be (without hurting people's feelings), give yourself a smile that at least you're doing well on that one. But if you read a scripture about loving your enemy and praying for those who despitefully use you and you know you aren't even good at avoiding resentment toward family and friends, maybe you could do some more study, ponder, and seek help from the Spirit to change to a more loving, forgiving person. Our Heavenly Father loves every single one of us but that does not mean He wants us to stay just the way we are. Our Savior has atoned for our sins but, as He said to the woman taken in adultery, "Go thy way and sin no more." They believe you and I can be better than we are right now. They're wiser than we are so we can trust them and keep working at being able to like ourselves rather than trying so hard to simply justify ourselves.